Too Much Screen Time? This Genius Rubber Band Trick Makes It Easy to Put Your Phone Down
We all have our screen time sore points… Maybe you’re like the average American who picks up their phone 76 times per day (with those check-ins leading to a whopping 2,617 clicks, swipes and taps!). Or perhaps you’re prone to “browser clutter” and can’t stop opening tabs on your tablet. Or you’re a bit too familiar with the “Netflix and scroll” phenomena and can’t watch TV without holding another device. Whatever your tech-induced weakness, our expert tips will teach you how to reduce screen time and help you take back control.
How to tell if your screen time is problematic
So many amazing things happen on our smartphones. We're connecting with a friend we haven’t seen in decades, finding an amazing recipe, depositing checks in our pajamas… But all that screen time can compromise our mental and physical health. Indeed, it can cause eye strain and dry eye, neck pain and more.
But there are behavioral shifts that signal that we should cut down on screen time, says Catherine Price, author of How to Break Up With Your Phone and the How to Feel Alive newsletter. “Ask yourself how your routines have changed to accommodate your phone use.”
Examples include:
You used to love books but now can’t finish one
You’re no longer relaxed by videos, shows or apps you once found soothing
You’ve stopped watching movies with subtitles so you can also look at your phone
Your kids hit or swat away your devices
You find yourself checking your phone in dangerous contexts, like while driving or crossing the street
You’ve formed quirky habits, such as checking your phone in the few seconds it takes for your computer to turn on or for a chip reader to accept your credit card
You have trouble enjoying food without your phone nearby
You’ve experienced scrolling paralysis, when you struggle to step away from an app or website with an “infinite scroll” feature
How smartphones keep us glued to screens
They're designed to act like slot machines
We’ve all felt our phones tug at our attention when we’re trying to focus on something (or someone) else. “This is by design!” emphasizes Price. “Our smartphones — and their apps — are designed to hijack our attention. They do so by copying techniques directly from slot machines, which are widely considered to be the most addictive machines ever created.” Slot machines hook users by offering rewards that are intermittent, meaning that you never know when you might receive one. With our phones, the ‘reward’ is the notification, message, comment, like or call that can come at any moment. “This system trains us to always have at least a sliver of our attention on the phone just in case — and our full attention is never available.”
They distract us — even when they're off
So, we’re perpetually low-level distracted. But is it such a big deal if we can still do our jobs and take care of our responsibilities? “Chances are it’s affecting you more than you realize,” says Price, who tracks the research on how our brains and bodies are coping with increased screen time. “The evidence is staggering, and one paper that’s especially important to mention is the ‘Brain Drain’ study. It showed that even when their phones were completely turned off and face down on a desk, study participants had a harder time solving problems, understanding information and remembering facts than when their phones were in another room.”
How to reduce screen time
If you're looking to cut back on screen time, try these 6 expert-recommended strategies.
1. Delay your start by 15 minutes
Surveys show that at 7am, smartphone touches explode. But it doesn’t have to be this way. “When clients can shift their morning behavior, they have more control over their habits for the rest of the day and night,” shares productivity consultant Rashelle Isip. “Just postponing looking at your phone for 15 minutes can set up your day with a digital ‘win’, as you allow yourself to shower, walk the dog or even do laundry before you look at your phone.”
2. Make meals a no-tech time
“Another way to reduce the time you spend on your phone is to consciously use mealtimes as true breaks from the digital world,” says Isip. “It may be challenging if you’re used to eating while wired, so don’t expect it to feel like a leisurely meal in the French countryside right away!” At first, you may need a physical crutch (maybe a juicy novel), a pre-meal ritual (could be lighting a candle) or a post-meal reward (like a dessert worth savoring).
3. Stop scrolling with shades of gray
Sometimes your need a techie solution to become less reliant on screens, notes Isip. “Many phones can create distinct settings for when you’re at work or sleeping that reduce distraction. You can also set alarms reminding you to take screen breaks and disable push notifications from everyone except for a few close contacts.” Changing your screen from color to black-and-white is a powerful hack for visually motivated users. Known as “grayscale,” this tonal change can make apps considerably less tempting — and render Pinterest addicts underwhelmed. Of course, some of the best deterrents are as low-tech as it gets. Many of Price’s clients wrap a rubber band or two around their phones as a “mental speed bump” to help them reconsider each use.
4. Set up your space for success
“You can also make changes to your physical environment to make it easier to engage in habits that are more nourishing,” encourages Price. “For example, I try to leave my guitar out of its case to make it as easy as possible to pick it up. And I put my phone in the closet at night for the opposite reason: to make it harder! It is amazing to see what a difference this small change makes in terms of the likelihood that I will pick up the guitar during my downtime instead of my phone.” Price’s strategy taps into what psychologist Alice Boyes, PhD, author of The Healthy Mind Toolkit, says is the ultimate key to reducing screentime: using one’s creativity and self-knowledge to find the smartest approach for you.
5. Personalize the process
“To give yourself the best chance at success, ask yourself if you have a personality trait that may correlate with increased screen time struggles,” reveals Boyes. Keep reading for tips that match your personality traits:
The ‘over-researcher’ is especially vulnerable to smartphone obsessiveness, says Boyes. “She is a person who gets stuck in overthinking mode and uses screen time to delay decisions. For her, there will always be another Airbnb listing to dissect or a more perfect cake for a party theme.” When she does uncover an exciting ‘find,’ the behavior is reinforced, starting a cascade of research. “Setting a time limit on research or delegating it is a great first step to making the behavior less ‘sticky’.”
The ‘self-improvement junkie’ “believes she’s being productive by consuming content that promises to enhance her life. But this is usually a fake productive effort that can reveal ‘flaws’ that don’t need addressing.” To avoid this trap, the self-improver should identify a true productive step she can take in the real world, such as partnering with someone who is naturally good at what she wants to achieve, says Boyes.
The ‘on-call community member’ has become a go-to person for friends, family members or a group like the PTA. “She enjoys contributing and having a reputation as responsive and reliable. Unfortunately, she’s become hyper-vigilant with her devices as a result because she doesn’t want to miss a last-minute request or a friend who needs virtual support.” To quash these feelings of “community scarcity,” Boyes recommends starting with small shifts in communication. “Maybe you’ve gotten in the habit of always commenting in a Facebook group. Take a day off from that job.” Worried about insulting a friend who is used to you replying ASAP? “Find new ways to cue her that you care. Instead of racing to answer, delay your next message but make it more meaningful or throw in a compliment.”
6. Jumpstart your efforts with a 'change window'
Now that you’ve decided on a few strategies to lower your screen time, be on the lookout for moments when your routine is disrupted to really push yourself, advises Boyes. “It could be a vacation, a houseguest or even an illness. Often these periods lead us into our bad habits — hello, early Covid-era doomscrolling! And they can be just as powerful at helping us change our habits for the better.”
For more on how technology affects your health, keep reading:
Expert Advice: What if I’m Tired of Technology?
Your Digital Devices Could Be Zapping Your Energy — Here are 2 Easy Ways to Avoid It
