Celebrating a decade of marriage is sweet during the month of love | Rosalind Tompkins
February is the month of love as we celebrate Valentine’s Day, and it is especially so for me because of my wedding anniversary that is also in February. This year Kwame and I will celebrate 10 years of marriage and I do not know where the time has gone for it to be a full decade later.
I still remember the first time that we met in person after meeting on the dating website, eHarmony. We had been conversing for a couple of months via Skype and when my birthday rolled around, he came to visit me.
When I saw him in the Tallahassee airport, I was immediately pleased that he looked exactly like what I had seen on the computer. It was a relief because online dating was fairly new and there was a lot of fraud going on.
I remember the smell of his minty fresh breath as we greeted one another with a quick kiss, and I felt safe because he felt like home. He did indeed turn out to be home as we dated for only three months and were engaged for another three months and then married within six months of meeting.
A whirlwind of sorts some would say but for me it was about time.
I was reading the book, “Good Self Bad Self” by Judy Smith, the real-life crisis expert who inspired ABC’s popular television show "Scandal."
In the chapter about denial, she cited an example of someone meeting and getting engaged after only four weeks. She stated how she cautioned the woman to wait while everyone else was gushing over the announcement. I had just gotten engaged to Kwame and things were moving fast.
I began to pray about our engagement and wonder if I was in denial. I then decided to have faith in God that he had indeed brought us together and I relaxed. I then prayed that I would not need some type of crisis management in the future.
I had hope and I am so glad that I followed my heart and married Kwame. We have gone through some difficult trials together which have only strengthened our relationship with each other and our faith in God.
A decade later, I can truly say that marrying Kwame was one of the best decisions of my life.
Rosalind Y. Tompkins received a doctorate of humanities degree from the Five Fold Ministry Theological University in 2012. Find out more at makeahopeconnection.com.
This article originally appeared on Tallahassee Democrat: Hope leads to celebrating decade of marriage during month of love
