Is This Bride Going Too Far By Planning To Cover Up Bridesmaid's Tattoos Using Photoshop?

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Asking Advice From Reddit

Weddings can make people a little crazy, and one woman decided to question the madness on Reddit. In the WIBTA subreddit, this bride to be had a very strange and specific query: would she be the a**hole if she had a bridesmaid's tattoos photoshopped out?

"I’m getting married in 2 months and one of my bridesmaids has an arm full of tattoos. She has previously covered all of them with makeup for work events when it was absolutely essential.

I asked her if she would cover them up for my wedding just to not draw attention to her and for pictures etc. She said she wouldn’t feel comfortable with that as it’s part of her identity and she doesn’t want to just for my ‘aesthetic’ wedding."

Did She Go Too Far?

She continued, explaining that her friend did not take it well.

"I talked to my photographer and she said she could cover them in the photos in the editing process and give me some edited and unedited photos etc. I decided to do it. I mentioned to her that that was what I was going to do (I thought her problem was just not wanting to change herself for my wedding, I thought it would be fine to fix the photos). She was so mad at me and called me an a**hole. Am I?"

Did she go too far?

Divided Opinions

This thread got pretty divisive, and there was no clear answer. Some people were sure that the bride was in the wrong, arguing that this would fundamentally harm their friendship.

"I imagine you asked her to be a bridesmaid because she's your friend? It shouldn't matter that she has tattoos. The fact that she is there and is a part of this important day should be all that matters."

"You chose her as a bridesmaid, presumably because you like who she is. This is who she is. If you do this, you're gonna (sic) lose a friend."

However, others thought this was a perfectly rational option.

"Things get edited out all the time. Granted they are usually not physical things like tattoos or weight but I understand how tattoos are really distracting in photos. I do think the friend is fine being upset and had the right to refuse covering up but I don't think the edited photos are anything to get too worked up about."

A Decent Compromise

The bride ended up updating the thread, and ultimately she decided against photoshopping out the tattoos. Instead, the photographer is planning on positioning the tattooed bridesmaid in ways that hide the ink. All's well that ends well, but maybe she should have considered this option before ambushing her friend over her life choices.